Today is our son’s first day of Kindergarten and I am sitting here crying like a baby.

I’m doing it for all the typical reasons;

• He’s growing so fast
• His first experience of school
• He was nervous (and so am I)

But one of the biggest reasons I’m sitting here is because my husband isn’t.  He should be here.  He is missing out on these big occasions.

No, he is not dead. No, he is not in the military.

He has something else that keeps him away…the pipeline.

Have you heard of it? Probably just the protests, right? A topic for another time.

In case you have not heard of it…our country is full of pipelines that run under and above the ground. They crisscross our nation like the veins in our body, providing a supply of liquid and gas that our country depends on.

They help transport liquid petroleum and natural gas to help create products we use EVERY DAY like our cell phones, TVs, fuel for our cars, heat to our homes, etc.   You can read about pipelines here.

Another story, another time.

Let’s get back to our story…

The kids and I decided to come back about a week before so I had time to get the school supplies from the list, figure out timing (for driving), plan out lunches (I’m failing here) and overall scheduling.

We also wanted to give our son a bit of time to adjust back home before entering a new situation.  To have time to run around and enjoy summer at the big house.  To get used to sleeping in a new bed and place.

It is such an exciting time and yet so hard on our family.

For an undetermined amount of time we will be apart from my husband, their daddy.  He is staying back to work, to provide for our family. Unless he gets laid off soon, we most likely won’t see him until around Thanksgiving break.  He is about 8 hours away and that is just too hard on two littles for a weekend trip.

This is a job that we chose before we had children.  My husband has worked so hard to get where he is and has become damn good at what he does. As a family we support him!  We know it will be hard and the visits will not come often enough but it is a short-term game at this point.

Although, this was a choice we made, it doesn’t make it any easier.

The kids and I get to be back in our home.  Making new friends and enjoying our new town.  We get to check out our festivals, sports and whatever else we can find.  We have all these things to keep us busy along with navigating school and all the things that come along with daily life.

While it can be fun doing these things, it is also bittersweet.

It’s hard for me to not think about the fact that he will miss out on different activities or the excitement of making a new friend.  He will miss out on the bedtime routine, the homework and even simple things like pickup and drop-off.

He doesn’t get to hold our sons hand at the dentist when he is scared.

He doesn’t get to wipe our daughters tears away when she gets hurt.

But he wants to.

He doesn’t get to teach them how to ride bikes.

He doesn’t get to snuggle with them every night.

But he wants to.

I often don’t send him as many pictures when we are apart.  Not because I don’t think that he should see them.  I worry about how it will affect him.  I don’t want him to miss them more than he already does but I don’t want him to miss out either.

We know there are options.

Trust me when I say that we have talked about a lot of them.  Our minds have changed several times already.  We know there are options for schooling.  Homeschooling or to just change schools whenever we moved is an option.

I know many families that are doing these things successfully and it works for them.  But each of us is different.  We feel this is what are family needs right now.

We also know there is always a way to make something work.  So, for now we are finding ways to make being apart work for our family. Technology certainly helps.  FaceTime is often used as signal allows.

Our family talks daily, even if it is only for a few minutes.  We keep the kids informed on what is happening and encourage them to be engaged in the conversation.

Please don’t mistake this post as looking for sympathy.

We know this is the path that we have chosen.  We have a plan and right now, this separation, this difficult situation is a part of that plan.

This post is more for those that are also experiencing this same situation.  I just want you to know that you are not alone.  There are others going through separation just like you.

It may not be for the same reasons but they know the heartache you feel.  The questions you have unanswered.  They have family and friends that just don’t understand.

There are others that loved this lifestyle but now want it to change so desperately.  Some are trapped financially and trying to figure a way out.  Others just love this work and are not ready to walk away from it.

Whatever the situation, there are others out there that are negotiating similar situations.  Trying to do the best for their family.

This post is for you. I hope you know that there are others out there, experiencing similar situations with our travel lifestyle. You are not alone.

Ways to help ease the separation…

• FaceTime, Skype, Zoom are great tools to have so that you can have a sense of connection.  They help by providing you with video calls.  You get to see each other while you chat.  We do this daily as long as he has a decent signal.
• Talk.  I’m mean really talk.  Separation makes things seem worse than they are sometimes.  You need to be able to share what you are feeling so things don’t get mixed up or lost in translation.
• Put yourself in their “shoes”.  Try to see things from the other person’s point of view.  Both parties are struggling with different things when separated.  My husband is so good at this, I need to do better.  It’s easy to get wrapped up in whatever we are dealing with that we don’t always stop to see what they are going through also.
• Make time for visits as often as possible.  Obviously this varies on distance and schedules but if you can make something work, DO IT!
• Find support.  Talk to people that can relate or are at least willing to listen.  If you need help finding places for support, check out my post about some resources here.
• If you don’t like the situation, make a plan to change it!

If you can relate and want to share, I would love to hear from you!  Drop a comment below!

As always, thanks for reading!

–Kate

For a lot of women, the fact that summer is approaching means that we need to start thinking about how we will look in less clothing. No more layering and bundling to cover up our bodies.

So, now that you are traveling, where are you supposed to work out?

Read on to find top tips on working out in small spaces…

Here are a few options;

In your trailer/hotel/rental

Let me just tell you that if you truly want to work out, you can make it happen in any size space! I have completed yoga programs, weight lifting programs, and even cardio programs between my two couches and recliners. You may have a few extra steps to prep your space or clean up after but it can be done!

Trailers

Those of you that have opted for a toy hauler may have a bit of extra space in the garage to set up some sort of workout area.

The door in between is a bonus if you opt to work out while kids or hubby are sleeping, although I’m sure the trailer still shakes a bit as you jump about. LOL.

Could be soothing for the little ones! Our oldest used to sleep on the couch right next to me while I worked out. It seemed to help him sleep a bit longer most days.

If you don’t have a toy hauler, you can still accomplish your workout goals! Two of our campers had front living rooms so I was able to work out in between the couches. This usually worked out pretty well because it was a nice square space.  Talk about working out in a small space!

I envy those that have the kitchen and living room on one level. Those campers usually have the most floor space for a workout. Depending on what extras you have brought in to the camper, you may have to do some temporary rearranging to give you room.

Hotels

These really aren’t much more spacious than our trailers as far as room to workout but many often offer a gym.  If you would rather stay in your room than look for a corner of the room.  Most TVs rotate or use your laptop/phone and move a chair or two out of the way.  Voila!  You have space to workout!  Plus, you can get these great bands to help provide a bit more resistance!

Rentals

If you opt to rent apartments or homes while traveling then just pick an extra room or make some space in the living room.  This is by far the most spacious option so you should be able to make it work.

As my kids have gotten older, they think it is fun to work out with me. Awesome BUT it sure is cramped in that space! Just remember to be extra careful with any weights or jumping moves! Heck, even the squats can take a little one out! I may have done that a few times.

If you know you are not a self-motivated person or just prefer to work out with others, these top tips for working out in small spaces may help give you ideas;

Local gym

Local gyms can be an option but there is a cost, of course. Many gyms offer group classes or personal training if you are unsure where to start. A bonus too, if they have a child watch or daycare option!

Downsides to a gym are that some places have a difficult exit option when you no longer want your gym membership. Which can occur quite often with our type of travel. If it is a nationwide chain, you may be able to transfer to your next location or back home.

The YMCA and Planet Fitness have been pretty easy to exit out of and are mostly nationwide if you can transfer your membership.

Walking/Running

Walking/Running is a simple form of exercise but not everyone enjoys doing it on their own. You may be able to round up a group of others to walk/run that stay in the same campground or wherever you may be staying.

There are many apps out there to help you train for a certain distance or just help keep you motivated. I personally like the ease of the Couch to 5K but recently found a new one, Better Me, that gives a bit of variation to your runs.

Gym at campground

A somewhat rare option is a gym at a campground. I have only found this a couple of times at campgrounds but if you are staying at a hotel or apartment complex you may have a better chance of finding this option.

Even if the campground does not have a typical gym there is generally more space to move safely (not as much traffic).  There also might be a playground to act like a kid again while increasing your muscle strength.

Church/Community Center

I’ve noticed lately that local churches or community centers have started offering workout classes for groups. Most popular has been Zumba but you may be able to find other classes as well.

Workouts

Now that you’ve figured out where you can work out, let’s talk about some program options.  Another top tip for working out in small spaces is to utilize a streaming at home service.  There is no need to carry around DVDs and you can use it with most smart TVs or Roku, Chromecast, etc.

I have used Beachbody’s On Demand (BOD) off and on for about the last 2 years.  It’s easy to use, low cost and you get access to over 500 different workouts!  They offer videos for all different levels and anywhere from yoga to dancing to weight lifting.

BOD is great but I know there are other streaming services out there as well as a ton of YouTube videos with lots of variety as well.  Do a search for exercise videos and try some out!

Nutrition

Movement is super important to stay healthy but don’t forget about the nutrition side of things as well! You can bust your butt doing the latest workout but if you are not fueling your body and providing the energy it needs for those workouts then you will not always get the results you desire.

Remember to focus on whole foods. Avoid processed foods. A common tip for grocery shopping is to shop the outside aisles of the stores. This is where the fresh produce, meats, and dairy are generally kept.

Check out the EWG’s suggestions for the dirty dozen fruits and vegetables that should be purchased organically. For meats, try to find free-range, non-GMO, and grass-fed. Once you get items home, be sure to wash your fruits and vegetables. Check out these tips.

I am no expert but I do have experience in losing weight after having babies!! My best results were after our oldest. Breastfeeding certainly helped along the way but I put in the work too! I dropped 60 lbs within 13 months!

While we may be talking about getting in shape for the summer, it is important to remember that taking care of our bodies should be an all-year process. Eat well, get good sleep, and follow these top tips for working out in small spaces. I know it can be a challenge but you are worth it!

Let me hear how you are focusing on your health!!  For other tips on maintaining your overall health while traveling, check out my post on mental health.

If you would like to hear about how I lost the weight, send me a message or comment below!

As always, thanks for reading!

–Katie

SO where do you start?

Most likely you don’t know anyone (yet) and are still getting used to navigating the area.

GOOGLE SEARCH

My go to start position is Google search or whatever search engine you use.  Type in a hobby that you are interested in and the location.  Or look for local parks, churches, community centers, whatever you may have an interest in and want to explore.

That search can send you down a rabbit hole quickly if you let it so try to focus on what you want out of your activity.

Do you want to create something?  Do you want to see something new?  Do you want a chance to meet new people?

FB EVENTS

My next tool is FB events and local groups.  FB and the internet in general can be helpful for finding new experience while traveling across the country!  Just follow these simple steps

• Click on the events section off to the left of your main page.
• Search your local area and a time frame…this week, next week or certain dates.

I’ve been able to find a lot of fun, local events that I did not find using my search engine.  These were anywhere from a charity run to a crafting class or local tasting of food or drink.

When I first started traveling, we didn’t have kids so most of my activities revolved around shopping or hiking.  I was more of an introvert than I am these days so I was ok with solo activities while my husband was working.  (Just make sure you let someone know where you are going and when you will be back.)

I just NEEDED to get out of the trailer!!

We were lucky enough to be near some great hiking and scenic places so I would take our pups with me and go for a hike that usually ended in me carrying our dog, Piglet.  He had lots of energy but just a little guy so he didn’t hang for long. Pig in a pocket pic included for cuteness!

I also found myself doing quite a bit of shopping in certain locations which wasn’t exactly good for the pocketbook!  I had to refocus my activity choices and find something else besides shopping.  Which takes us to my next suggestion…

GET A JOB

The first time I got a job while traveling (outside of helping at a campground), we were just outside of Washington D.C.  We were living in a house FULL of people but I needed some space and new faces.  One of our roommates started at a local tanning salon.  She mentioned that they were still looking for help so I went for it.

Not exactly what I was looking for but I am so glad that I took a chance!  Everyone there was so nice!  I got great work experience, training and so much more.  I ended up making two friends from there who helped me out a ton with our pup, filling in for my lack of friends and just being very supportive.

OPTIONS WITH KIDS 

Now, we have our two littles so I try finding new experiences while traveling that they would enjoy.  Below are my top choices;

• Zoos
• Craft classes
• Gymnastics/dance classes
• Local mall with a children’s area or bounce house
• Mom groups can be found on FB

Really, anything to get them out of the trailer as well as burn off some energy!  Trust me, you NEED this for your sanity!!

COMMUNITY BOARDS

In the more remote locations, I often would be willing to drive a bit further for an activity but there may be other options such as a local church, community group, boards in the grocery store or post office.

I admit, I have not used this resource much.  I have been successful with the previous options and just haven’t had to use this one. Most will have a community board with things going on around town and if they do not, they usually have people who will be willing to help you find something or someone.

EXERCISE

There might not always be things close to where you are staying, in those instances, start with a daily walk.

It is amazing what just getting outside can do for your mental health!!  Ah, the power of sunshine and fresh air!

Plus, it gives you exposure to other people, who may be able to suggest new experiences or new places!!  In these more isolated places try to resist the urge to always curl up and binge TV/surf the internet.  Those days can be just as rewarding but only on an occasional basis.

Speaking of exercise, places that offer exercise options are a great resource.  Not only do you get to move but you have the chance to meet others. Some places, like most YMCAs, offer a child care option too while you are taking your class.

FACEBOOK GROUPS

Don’t miss out on this great resource…pipeline groups found on Facebook.  Here you can connect with other traveling ladies in your area and continue to stay in touch with them!

There are a ton of groups out there so you just have to find the one that works for you.  Just use the search tab on FB and type in “pipeline” or “pipeline wives”.  That should get you started with several options.

In addition to those groups be sure to join Pipeline Ladies Lunching.  This group organizes lunch gatherings all over.  Again, just search for your current location or post and ask if anyone is around you.  I wish I had known about this group from the beginning!  It’s so nice to have a standing meeting once a week and plan trips, shopping or just another get together.

If you don’t see something in your area, you can always start something!  Post in the groups that already exist and ask for people to join you on an outing.  Or you can create your own group if you are not finding what you are looking for in your area.

The point is that you don’t have to be so isolated.  There are millions of people on this earth and many have the same interests, problems and desires as you do!  If you need help on finding people to connect with while traveling check out my post here

As always, thanks for reading!

–Katie

Today I want to talk to you about 7 tips on how to travel with the pipeline.  I know from my experience that I had no idea what a pipeline was let alone what it meant to be part of the pipeline. A pipe what?!!  

Only later did I learn that the ditch that was dug through my parent’s property was a pipeline.  I used to play in that thing all the time (NOT recommended)!!!

*Disclaimer – this is not a full list of what can happen, just my own experiences and lessons

So, without further ado…what I have found it to be like while traveling with the pipeline

You will be away from family & friends

One of the hardest things for people when they begin traveling with the pipeline is being away from their family.  Everyone’s situation is different but I hear often how people wish that they could see their family more often or have them near.  Unfortunately, most of our families cannot just pack up and travel with us so we must learn how to cope with the separation.  A few things that have helped me over the years with the loneliness and separation from family are;

• Take a few small trips throughout the year to visit my family.  They are often solo or with the kids but it is good for my soul to see my loved ones!  
• If your family/friends are able to travel, set up some times that will work best for everyone.  Then you can take them on a tour of your local area!
• If travel is not an option, increase your phone calls, do more FaceTime or Zoom calls so you can see them

Family & friends will not understand why

Those family members and friends that you miss so much may get distant.  They don’t understand this lifestyle and why anyone would want to do it. 

Your family and friends may not keep in touch as much as they used to with you.  However, when you are in town they will want you to visit them. They may not think about the fact that you have already traveled a great distance just to get home for a few short days. Try not to hold it against them.  

We have spent years exhausting ourselves during our trips home, running from one house to the next. Not because we felt bad but because we wanted to see EVERYONE.  

What has worked best for us is to set up a day or two out of our schedule.  Then try to gather as many on those days as possible, in one location, so we don’t have to continue to run around.  If anyone wants additional time then they can come to wherever you are staying, if you have room in your schedule. 

I know not all of us have a home of our own to go back to so if that is your situation plan a night out with everyone.  A neutral place can be nice since you are not responsible for set up or clean up!  If that won’t work, ask one of your family/friends to host at their place.

The number on the check will look great until you realize all the bills you have!

That number on those checks may look much bigger but they often have to stretch much further than what most think.  Those long hours add up to a great check but there are still so many other costs that you might not think of initially.  

Most of us on a job are away from our homes.  So, that means you may be paying, in addition to your bills to maintain a home in your home state, for;

• A place to stay (campground + trailer payment, home/apt rental or hotel)
• Food
• Utilities
• Equipment needed to do jobs (depending on position/company)
• Union dues, if applicable
• Savings for moving expenses for next job

Some families that work the pipeline choose to travel together while others have the spouse (with or without children) staying back in their home state.  In the latter situation you would have to double those expenses mentioned above.

It is not uncommon to change companies multiple times

Speaking of savings for moving expenses….it is not uncommon to change jobs often and abruptly.  A job can end sooner than planned due to the employer, the contractor or the employee’s actions.  We can’t forget about rain days either.  If the weather is bad enough to call for a rain day, those that are paid hourly, usually go without pay for those days.  

I would recommend always putting away money to get you to the next job or home, whichever the case.  Even better, save enough for a layoff because this work is never guaranteed.  Start with your moving expenses and then keep going until you can have enough saved to pay at least six months of bills.

I’m not sure if it is as common in non-union jobs but what I have seen in union jobs is that it is pretty common to change companies often.  It may be that the company fired you, you didn’t like the company or people who worked for that company or you were just tired of the area.  

No matter the reason, it is not always looked down on for leaving. Depending on the circumstance people go back to the company even when they left in the first place.

You can see a lot of this beautiful country if you are willing

One of the great perks is that you are able to see a lot of our country and sometimes other countries!! I have always loved travel and taken trips since I was a kid.  Some have never left their home state let alone their home town.  It can be scary but trust me, it is so worth it!  There are SO many different places and things to see. Each state offers something unique!

We try to take a trip that is within a few hours of the job location every month.  If we can do more, we will.  The internet is a great resource for finding things to do!  Check back here as my blog develops too for the places we have visited!!

Meet new people!

Traveling gives you the opportunity to meet new people and make new friends!  They may be other pipeline families that understand what it is like to travel full time or new local friends in each new town.  

Be prepared though too, that not all local areas will appreciate the pipeline being in town.  Pay attention to what information your company shares at the safety meetings about the locals and watch the local news or papers for what the “climate” may be like in your area.

You will gain packing and logistics skills you never knew you wanted

If you travel for a while with the pipeline you may want to add professional packer and mover to your resume!  LOL. The amount of moves that can happen in a year’s time is unbelievable to those outside of this lifestyle.  You may move once a year or even every couple of months depending on the different jobs going on and the pipeliner’s work relationship with the employers.  

In my opinion, packing a fifth wheel/travel trailer is way easier than packing up a rental apartment or home.  Less stuff to move or pack in boxes is definitely a bonus for those tiny homes on wheels!  Either one still can make you a very proficient mover.

You can plan all you want but the best plan is to have a back up

One last tip on what it means to travel with the pipeline (and this is a BIG one)!  You can plan all you want but your best plan is to have a backup and be flexible.  I can’t even count how many times my husband told me we would be going to X location and then two weeks or less we go to Y location instead.  Or you plan for a lay off and suddenly you are off to the next job.  

Luckily, not as often is the plan to go to a job and have that change to an extended lay off period.  This goes back to making sure you are socking some of that money away while there is work!! 

Family vacations and trips to family events may get cancelled or as a spouse you go alone.  If you are living separately, you may plan for your worker to be home at a certain time of the year but a project gets extended or a new one comes along.

You often just have to make the best of it and hope it works out better next time.

I’m sure there are a million other tips I am missing but those will have to come at a later date. I hope the ones I have shared have given you some insight!  If you are already traveling, pop on below and offer up some of your best tips!  If you have any questions, feel free to put them in the comments or send me an email or message on social media!

As always, thanks for reading!

–Katie